Men and Grief

I am reading "Men and Grief," by Carol Staudacher, which is referenced by Martin and Doka in their work, and is remarkably useful and helpful despite being written by a mere woman.  (I will be reviewing it shortly.)  I am reading the chapter on "Experiencing Loss as a Husband."  I have found an insightful reference to men scheduling and planning activities "not as a way of *avoiding* his grief, but as a way of *accompanying* his grief."  Good to know.  A few pages later there is the, fairly common, advice not to "make some drastic major change, such as sell your house, quit your job, transfer to another city, buy new property, or completely transform your lifestyle.  It is completely unwise to make any such changes for at least one year following your wife's death."  (Emphasis, as above, is the author's.)

Well, that ship has sailed ...